Move over, FOMO. 2019 is the year of self-actualization. As we see more and more women and LGBTQ+ heroes speaking their truth in the media (and standing up to bullies big and small around the world) we’ve seen a new wave of badass, self-assured people who know what they want and who they are – and who aren’t afraid to spend time with those fine selves.
So join the revolution by ditching your FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) and trading up for JOMO – the Joy of Missing Out. Defined by Psychology Today as the “emotionally intelligent antidote to FOMO,” JOMO describes the pleasure of taking a break from social activities, especially social media, to enjoy personal time. So ditch the smartphone (Instagram filters and hashtag-YOLO are no substitute for the real thing), shed that anxiety, and dial in on some self-care ideas for your real best friend: ya’self.
Here are 8 great self-care night tips to ditch the FOMO once and for all!
1. Do something that’s just for you
FOMO is all about the anxiety induced by comparing ourselves to other people – and social media, which encourages us to compare our behind-the-scenes to other people’s carefully filtered highlights reels, makes it worse. Plus, hours scrolling have been proven to make us feel lonelier and more isolated than ever.
Disconnect entirely and do something that’s just for you – no photos, no brave #selfcare declarations. Just you and what makes you feel good. If the thought of this makes you want to send up an SOS, don’t worry! There are therapists and mindfulness experts way ahead of you.
Get your introvert self-care ritual started with a curated self-care subscription box that delivers tools for self-reflection and self-care, along with goodies like snuggly socks, aromatherapy, spa products and more. (We love therapist-curated Therabox and the practical self-care workbooks and strategies delivered by MindWander, which help you kick-start your self-care in your own home.)
2. Pamper yourself with a home spa day
Get out of your head by pampering that bod. There’s nothing as immediately relaxing or rejuvenating as the me-time that comes with a self-care night. Even something as simple and inexpensive as a hot bath or DIY hair masque can leave you glowing from the inside out.
Stock up your home spa with super-affordable luxe Korean face masks and skincare products (we love the style and selection from Beauteque), or treat yourself to a full home-spa experience with a bath and beauty subscription like Bath Blessing Box, which delivers a whole new suite of hot shower and bath goodies to your home each month for primo glow-up self-care.
3. Come clean in a journal
In the age of social media, authenticity is hard to come by, and your own motives for sharing things online can become confused quickly. Do you really want everyone to see you pre-makeup, or do you just want the likes? Or worse: Do you really believe the opinion you just shared, or (let’s be real) are you bored at work and looking for drama?
Treat yourself and start journaling. Nothing can help detox your soul from social media by writing something that’s for your eyes only. If it feels selfish, pointless, or silly to write just for yourself, that’s probably a sign that you’ve lost touch with how to focus in and stop performing. Give it a try and put your pen to the page – you’ll be amazed at what comes out. Start with the curated notebooks and pens from Scribe Delivery for some extra writing flair.
4. Spend a cozy evening reading
Nothing says “self-care” like cuddling up with a good book – unless it’s cuddling up with a good book, sweet treats, and tea! Turn your reading time into a celebration worthy of envy. Want to download a fully curated literary evening? Check out the Introverts Retreat Girl’s Night In box, which sends you a new novel by a female author each month, plus 5-6 treats selected to recharge your inner batteries, like bubble bath, essential oils, chocolates, crossword puzzles, and more.
5. Binge your favorite show or podcast
This is a judgment-free zone and this is your time – indulge yourself and splurge on the media you love! If you’re feeling educational, here are some great podcasts for learning something new. And if you just want to binge a show, Netflix awaits (but first, read up on how to brace yourself for the inevitable post-binge let-down).
6. Start your own tea ceremony
There’s a reason tea ceremonies have been around for thousands of years – besides the social pleasure of sipping tea to show trust and hospitality, black, green or herbal tea is a great stress-reliever, with natural antioxidant and calming benefits. If you aren’t already steeped in the art of tea, it can feel intimidating to get started – but no worries. Take a quiz to learn your tea type, or start building your tea collection with mindfulness-raising teas from Club Magic Hour. Before long, you’ll have a restorative self-care routine all your own.
7. Whip up some self-love with DIY sweets
We all eat healthy during the week, but the evenings and weekends are your time – celebrate with something sweet from your own kitchen. Treat yourself by taking the time to decorate adorable cupcakes, design Pinterest-worthy cakes, or whip up Instagram-worthy cookies – but all. For. You. (And whoever you want to share them with when introvert time’s over – we’re not going to judge.)
If you want to channel your inner Martha Stewart but don’t know where to start, check out Bake Eat Love, which delivers a new hand-crafted recipe with pre-measured ingredients, baking tools and adorable baking kitsch in every monthly box for no-fail DIY success.
8. Strive to be better
So what if you’re already feeling pretty good about your self-care routine and mental health? First, pour one out, you self-care queen! And then, think about how you can level up your me time and evolve even higher. We love the self-improvement activities and gentle guides from the My Be Better Box for exactly this – besides wellness goodies, each box includes two months of printed wellness challenges and more. Need an incentive? Each time you return a completed challenge, My Be Better Box donates to the maternal health charity Every Mother Counts, so you can improve yourself and the world all in one go.